I’m a huge fan of Tony Robbins and I love his work. I get to learn so many amazing life tips from this great man, including personal success, life purpose, relationship, finance and of course, inspiration. In this post, I will summarize the relationship tips I love from Tony.
Here they are:
#1. Stop Focusing On Yourself Too Much
Focusing only on yourself can destroy your relationship. As Tony said, the more you focus on yourself, the more the other person feels unloved and the greater the distance you create in your intimate relationship.
The more you focus on what you are getting, the weaker your relationship becomes. Your relationship is not a place for you to go and search for what you can get. You will get disappointed when you do so. Instead, focus on what you can give. Focus on what you can do for them that will light them up, and because of that, it will light you up too.
#2. Do What You Did In The Beginning
If you do what you did in the beginning of your relationship, your relationship will continue to nourish and grow. Let’s think about it. What are the things do we do in the beginning of our relationship? Is it when the other person is late and we wait for an hour and still smile when they come? Or no matter how busy our schedule is, we still make time to go out with each other at least once a week. The key word here is “make time“, it emphasizes that we go the extra mile for the other person. Basically we do anything for the one we love in the beginning.
How does your relationship look like after a year, 2 years and 5 years? Are you still doing the things above? If not, why not?
“Do what you did in the beginning of a relationship and there won’t be an end.” – Tony Robbins
#3. Appreciate More
Always appreciate the other person for what they do and who they are instead of expecting too much from them. I have this tip that can change your relationship if you’re up for it. Are you ready? Here it is: start an appreciation journal. Every day, just write down in that journal at least 3 things you appreciate about your spouse/partner. Just write it all down, no matter what it is. It could be small things like the way they look, the way they wake you up in the morning, the food they cook for you, etc… The more you look for the good things in your loved one, the more good things you will see from them. What you focus on expands.
“Trade your expectations for appreciation and your world changes instantly.” -Tony Robbins.
This was one of the breakthroughs I had from Anthony Robbins at the 6 day Date With Destiny Australia event.
#4. Understand Masculine and Feminine Energy
This video explains it all. What makes an intimate relationship work is things in common. What makes a it passionate is things in difference. The difference here is in energy, which is masculine and feminine, as we know opposites attract.
#5. Keep Innovating
Relationship success is like business success. You must keep innovating and marketing. You must find new exciting ways to meet your partner’s needs.
There you have it, which one of the five tips above are you going to apply?